When it comes to your marriage, it’s no secret that it takes hard work to successfully love one another, and coexist for life. It’s rare for a couple to completely live without conflict, or at least without hitting a few bumps in the road along the way. In fact, studies show that couples who constructively disagree and work through their views, experience healthier and longer relationships. It won’t be easy, but it’s always worth it.
Marriage is a Rocky Road, But Worth the Drive
Through the ups and downs, couples who learn how to manage the bumps have proven to have the most successful and loving relationships. It won’t be easy, but it’s always worth it. If your marriage could use some help overcoming these 3 common marriage problems, a therapist could be the answer.
It’s no surprise that most marriages suffer because of poor communication. In today’s world of overwhelming technology, experts say that most communication problems stem from our need for ‘connectivity.’ Whether it’s scrolling through Facebook, or checking your email, lack of communication can put a serious strain on your marriage.
Technology aside, a lot of communication in relationships comes back to manners. Over time, it’s natural to become the most comfortable with your spouse. So much so that our consideration for proper interaction and conversation often gets pushed aside. Just because you’re married, doesn’t mean you should interrupt, cut them off, or make your opinion stronger than theirs.
Ditch the phone and be intentional about the way you speak with one another. You could be amazed by the difference it will make.
Money is the root of all evil, right? Whether you’re in the best financial place of your life, or the worst, being on the same page as your spouse with budgets, spending, bills and petty cash is the start to overcoming problems that stem from money. The truth is that money doesn’t cause problems, worry does. Make a plan, and recognize when worry is causing the problem between you and your spouse. Then come up with constructive ways to care for each other, rather than attack each other in times of worry.
Never stop dating your spouse. When you first started dating, they were your top priority. I would bet that you lost sleep over spending time together and thinking about each other. Don’t ever let that change. If your spouse, and their needs are coming second, or third to other things in your life, find a way to set those things aside and honor one another. For many couples who have children, it’s easy to get caught up in the hussle and bussle of sports and activities, but at the end of the day, making each other a priority over the busy schedules will radically transform the health of your relationship.