As a couples therapist I am always attempting to understand how one person is affecting another person in their close relationship. Sometimes the affect is easy to identify, for example anger. If one person gets angry, this makes the effect upon the other easy to identify and therefore work on in a therapy session.
Ways for a significant other to compensate for this person’s anger maybe to avoid all matters which lead towards anger. Validating this anger can be helpful to understanding this person’s anger just because they rarely have been able to share this anger with others. If a person is shut down by their significant other that make it much harder to identify the affect upon that person. In the shut person example therapist must make an assumption as to the emotional affect one person is having on the other person. This assumption will then have to be tested many times in the session until it can be proven.
– Ed Chase
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